Please give some advice on sex

[Dom R]

I believe that she doesn’t feel it is appropriate for religious reasons. She also told me that she is only interested in 2 positions, and doesn’t want to try any others. When I say what about my wants, I am told that my desires are not respectful of what makes her uncomfortable, and if I make her feel uncomfortable she loses all desire for sex.

if she is truely interested in being religiously devout... then i suggest that you approach it on that level.
Every major religion: Judaism, Christianity, and Islam... underscores that married couples SHOULD HAVE REGULAR (as in, frequent enough that no-one is left wanting more) sex!!

We went to a marriage counselor provided by our church, and it didn’t do any good at all for me, in fact it made things worse it think.

ok, so your church counsellor is incompetant. This is not unexpected. Talk to your PRIEST, not your counsellor.

The bible I'll make that assumption since you said church) is very explicit, that your wife is not living up to her duty as a Christian married woman!.

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I need to feel desired and loved sexually.

now THAT, is a whooolle different issue. you can't make your wife be sexually attracted by you just by asking her to be.

I have tried for months to be the kind and loving individual it suggests, but it doesn’t seem to pay off.

being "kind and loving", isnt what turns all women on.
Read the 5 love languages, or "his needs, her needs", or some book like that, to give you more ideas there.

(PS: and definately try to get your church to fire that counsellor. He's harmful to marriages!)


PPS: you might want to think more carefully, about the difference between "horney, and sexually wanting you", vs "wanting to take care of your needs".

They are two different things, technically. One is 'easier' to achieve than the other. Either is usually more fulfilling to a man, than "open legs, close eyes, and lay there" sex, though.