How to explain a boundary

[NikB]

I am floored that he would even THINK that nevermind mention it. Yeesh.

I do wonder though - how did he know about it? I find it odd that he even knows the - er - uh - current status of your nether regions.

While I like SD's approach if you do talk about it - and think it's great practice for if something like this comes up again - I don't think you should even bring it up again. What would be the point?

I think I'd be more inclined to just keep on moving forward with your own life and taking care of things yourself. He may or may not get a clue - but it will likely get his attention that you're not relying on him anymore. That should help him clue in to the whole "we're not together" thing.

As for the coparenting, I'd keep your conversations on the topic of your daughter, and be sure to remain business like but friendly in those conversations. This doesn't guarantee he will do the same, but it's about the best you can do, then hope he steps up and acts like a father.