Sage and LL, well I just could relate to some of your "is this enough?" sentiment LL. Nothing huge and dire!
Sam, too funny, CJ just suggested if the neice calls again that we get an unlisted new number! We're all on the same page. And BTW we contacted a lawyer the day after the first calls, no fooling around. He suggested no contact at all.
Today I woke up with a headache . But CJ and I had breakfast (lunch) out and then headed out to a greenhouse to pick up some stuff for our yard. That was nice. I do remember doing that alone a few times in past years which was rather sad. So it was great to be making the plans together.
CJ's also been busy this week making contacts for future work possibilities. Very nice to see him excited about possibilities.
I had a moment after we got home today. We put together our new bird feeder (no problem) and hung it. We came back in and the cats circled for their dinner. I commented on CJ not adding "enough" dry food (you don't really want to hear my reasoning ), and he retorted, I ended up leaving the room saying "just do it however you want".
I plopped on the couch, this exhaustion thing is kind of getting me down. CJ asked, I said I was tired. True, but not entirely true. He pressed some and I admitted that it bothers me to be working so hard, being so tired and having the house still dirty at the end of the week.
So we TALKED about it and cleared some things up. You see, I had such a hard time identifying my former controlling behaviours that I'm rather gun-shy now. CJ assured me that if I come across as controlling he'll let me know (in a joky way, not a confrontational one).
So I asked "Wasn't asking you to clean out the tub the other day controlling?:" and he said "No". I guess it has a lot to do with the tone of voice and not micromanaging the job while or after he's done it. So I'm learning!
Must say it's good to know I can make requests and not have to worry about whether or not I'm "slipping back" into my old ways.
Why is it so hard for me to just make my wishes/needs clear? Why do I ASSume he should KNOW? For all I know, it hasn't even occurred to him that our physical intimacy has lapsed. Hmmmm....wonder if a direct request would work there??? Dare I????
Thanks all! I'm so glad I had a chance to catch up with some of you last night.
. But CJ and I had breakfast (lunch) out and then headed out to a greenhouse to pick up some stuff for our yard. That was nice. I do remember doing that alone a few times in past years which was rather sad. So it was great to be making the plans together.
