Welcome. So very sorry to see you here, but... you've come to a good place.
I agree with Lou, that if you can get your wife to come here and read, even post, it might help her a LOT.
As for you, and this may seem nearly impossible, but you have got to lose your anger and resentment if you want your sitch to improve. It doesn't help (as you've noticed), and all it does is more firmly entrench her in her belief that all you really want is SEX.
Have you considered going to a marriage encounter weekend?
As so many of us have seen here, things are not likely to change if you are not willing to take radical steps... and even then, there is a chance it still won't change. How far are you willing to go? Would you Divorce, or do your beliefs make that a non-option?
You may also want to check out on Amazon.com a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy. A lot of the guys here are reading it...
