Although I have been D'd for over a year our financial situation is a little different than most, I believe. As part of the agreement we agreed to keep our finances together until our home sold ... but who would have known that the housing market would take a downward spiral at the same time ... so two years after going on the market ... we still have not sold. And to top things off our home is a historic home ... so it is a very special population that wants to maintain an older home.
I am not living in the house because it was too difficult for me to take care of by myself. My parents bought me a home which I will purchase from them as soon as the house sells (aren't they wonderful). However both of our paychecks go into a joint checking account and I pay all of the bills. He literally hands them over to me unopened for me to take care of.
I think it might have been a mistake that I moved out of the home that we are trying to sell. Unfortunately he begins projects and then doesn't finish them for months. For instance he started scraping the house on one side this summer ... and it still hasn't been painted. What I try to analyze is whether this is a sign that he really does not want to move on or if he just has no motivation anymore to get things done. I haven't done much to go over and help with the house because it is so very painful for me. But I do think I need to go in and repaint some rooms this winter ... just to make things more "neutral" and appealing to a larger population of buyers.
I also do not have everything of mine out of the house ... basically because I do not know what to do with it all. I have a lot of antiques that I think I should just try to sell. Buying antiques was "our hobby" and I think maybe I should sell what I have.
I don't know, I guess I am at a crossroads ... or maybe it is the holiday blues. I feel like I have been standing forever and I do feel like I am in a hopeless situation. I love my husband very much and we complimented each other in so many ways. But I feel like there has been no movement and I am spinning and spinning.
