I do not think that my current relationship represents a marriage beyond the fact that we both wear our rings and file our taxes together.
Yes your marriage is in turmoil, but it is a marriage regardless of what you think it represents because it isn't going your way.
I am not fit to debate anyone on the Bible. I know what I've researched and read over and over again, but claim no authority. What I've suggested is that you research these sites and listen to those far more knowledgeable than I am, people who have restored marriages after enduring circumstances that you can only imagine. People who, after enduring this ordeal, have happiness beyond their dreams because they chose not to be swayed by today's throw-away attitudes toward marriage.
I'm certain your minister is trying to bring you peace. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm sure your family and friends are, too. Like mine. I told them to support me or shut up.
God wants your marriage restored. But you must believe it and want it for it to work.
It's a choice only you can make.
Blessings,
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
