What double standards? Like, it's good for Men can be experienced but women shouldn't be too experienced?
Maybe everyone needs to consider some men like me want an exclusive R and not all men will F anything that is offered.
I know I don't represent all men's POV, but you keep bring up "too nerdy to F." I don't see being too nerdy as a problem. I don't see being 42 as a problem. I don't see some of the other things ( a littler heavier than ideal) as problems.
It those things are problems for a guy, move on. He isn't the right guy for you. Eighteen year-old guys, being nerdy might be a problem for them. Mojo, this isn’t your college years, so don’t worry about what was and wasn’t when you were in college.
If I started dating today, none of those things you posted would be a problem. I would consider someone with mastectomies, some excess weight, and a lot of other less-than-perfect body types that seem to increase as people age.
Some no-go's would be bigotry, radical political/religious beliefs, refusing to exercise, no money sense, poor hygiene, severe deformities, unhealthy weight gain, and ( I haven't made that part of my no-go list ). I am not saying I would stay with someone that passed my minimums standards test.
Yes, the .67-.70 waist to hips ratio, good make-up, attractive clothed, etc. helps initially. The good sex helps in the short and long run but what lasts for you and your guy in the long run?
Maybe GP or guys his age, your age are more into eye candy than I am, so take my comments as one vote among many.
