an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[DaveJ]

I gently explained that, uh, that's a little odd, and I was feeling really weird about it.

xh said he thought I might. He asked if I was mad; I said no. (Being honest.) He asked if he should withdraw the invite. I thought about it for a minute, said no. Asked him if he would feel weird if the situation were reversed, and he said that he would. (Okay. Progress. At least he knows there's something 'off' here.

So basically he can analyze it after the fact and realize that it's not "right". The thing he may need to work on now is thinking things through before acting upon them. Of course, he also should've consulted you before inviting anyone even if it's just a normal friend since you are doing the cooking... He comes across as insensitive, but at the same time it's very strange that he just doesn't know any better....