It has been a long weekend. My D confronted her father bacause she was upset that he was not able to spend time with her this weekend to work on her pitching. He was going out of town for the weekend ... and she suspected that it was with the ow. She confronted him on it and he indicated that his "friends" mother had died and that he was going out of town for the funeral for the weekend. He then called me on Friday evening to tell me how important it was that she go to her pitching lesson and that I needed to find a catcher for her for the lesson (he usually catches during lessons). I told him that she tried to find someone to catch but could not.
My D indicated to me that she told her father that he had adopted another family and that we didn't matter anymore. He told me that she said this and he wanted me to know that he had not "adopted" another family and that he was going out of "courtesy". I told him that he did not have to explain anything to me ... but that it did sound like more than "courtesy" to me to spend the entire weekend through visitations and a funeral.
Then I really blew it when I told him that I did not want to discuss this. I cared too much about all of this and I had to find a way not to care.
Then ... not 1 hour later he called me back to discuss some happenings (major problems actuallY) on my D's high school softball team ...the discussion was for no less that 45 minutes. He acted as if the conversation 1 hour before had never taken place.
I just don't know what to think anymore ... it feels like I have been going in this vicious circle for 3 years since he left.
Advice on how I should proceed forward would be helpful. When I try to keep things "business-like" I feel guilty and like I am driving him further away. But when I am my friendly self and he responds I feel hopeful ... to then have him once again become cold and short with me.
