I just don't get it. Why do wives sit around and do this to yourselves? Don't you have more self respect than that? Why would a W play second fiddle to OW? Do you think I would have had respect for my H if he allowed me to continue my little games with my OM just as long as I allowed him to stay in the same house with me? No way! Oh, I may have played him for the fool he would have been or if he wanted to be my "best friend" while I screwed around on him, then, yeah, I probably would have had a PA with the OM. Who wouldn't have their cake and eat it too?
Are you so afraid of losing your H that you are willing to allow him to go have an affair while you sit meekly by and wait for him to decide who he likes better? He has more or less been open about this?
You need to read Dr. James Dobson's book on Tough Love.
Sandi, I have read Tough Love. I'm interested in your thoughts since you were the one that strayed from the marriage. I think you can offer all of us helpful advice.
I too think sometimes I should be doing something different. What would you do think we should do with a fence sitter?
Thanks for any input you have.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
