Does anyone else have this problem?

[missmyfriend]

angelica and short1, I can relate to what you are both saying. They do try to convince themselves they are no longer attracted to us. It is all a "bunch of hooey" (I just had to say that, lol). They are right to a small extent but only in the wild, naughty sort. We are routine and boring and acceptable. The OP is unknown and crazy and exciting. There is nothing wrong with us. It is what all people have to face in their lives but how they deal with it depends on how healthy they are emotionally and morally. We all are weak so people make mistakes but some seem to go overboard.

Angelica, I agree completely with your assessment that he was trying to convince himself that he was no longer attracted to you. Short1 has already experienced her husband being at least somewhat honest that he is still attracted to her although he "lied" to her (and himself) earlier.

In my sitch, my W told me she was not attracted to me and, worse, men in general. I know that isn't true because I am a people watcher and I have seen it when she noticed a guy (thinking I didn't notice her attraction). Also, pardon me for sharing this, during our intimate times, certain discussions told me that she is hetero by specific biological reactions (again sorry for TMI). Further, after being gone for 6+ months she made a comment that maybe sometime, if I am okay with the OP, we could have some... I ignored that comment because I am monogamous, consider the long term implications, trying to follow what I am supposed to do, etc. If she wasn't attracted to me she would not even have entertained the idea.

Again, I apologize for sharing something very personal, but I am trying to make a point that I am sure you are still attractive to him. He is, again, simply messed up.