Short - thanks for this. Yes, I know that my h felt old. My mother had died recently, and our eldest son had got engaged, while the two younger ones were parading through the house with ravishingly pretty girls. To someone a bit daft in the head it all got a bit much, clearly.
I do find the fact that he harps on about it suggests that he probably has to keep telling himself that.
The OW clearly doesn't believe it because she won't let him spend any time alone with me . . . that she has any control over.
