My H talked about sex as being the big (and only) reason for his affair. How great the sex was, the chemistry, and how monogamy was a concession. WOW, it killed me. We also had a good sex life, so I thought. He made it clear that I was no longer attractive to him or at least not in the way the OW was. That was 6 months ago.
This week he said three things to me that turned my head. The first was he admitted that the monogamy statement was a half truth. Big step for him. He is still fighting that battle in his head, but I have come to realize it has nothing to do with me. The second confession he made to me was that he felt unattractive and old. The fact that some other women would be attracted to him (other than me) made him feel he still had what it takes. The third big shocker was, after months of hearing how he was not attracted to me, he admitted yesterday that in fact he was.
He has also started to talk about his need to "grow up". So maybe it just takes time for them to get it?
