OK, getting that out there is tough for even Mr. Open CVA to say. Point is, it does help detach...
Darn right it does. I'm in the same boat CVA. No affection and all the normal stuff that went into the mix that put my M where it currently resides is tough. My wife came out of it with her PMA (in terms of confidence with opposite sex) at a all time high, mine was/is at an all time low. Within the first week of my separation I was amazed at the attention I received, and it has gone an AWFUL long ways towards helping me detach. It soothes the fear of thinking that you will never be able to find someone special (or at least HOT!!!!!!) again. Mine was also a fear of my age and that the pickings would be quite slim in my "division". Getting those fears knocked out in short order helped, but longing for the "physical attention" is still a chore.
Anyway, hang on to that but play it VERY, VERY smart! My W doesn't have a L that is a simple phone call away, so I've got a buffer that you don't. Your's might have a knee-jerk reaction that could cause you grief. Just rest assured in the knowledge that you landed a "looker" before and you'll be able to do it again if required. This time, maybe you/we will be able to land a "looker" with something better inside.
