This weekend was a really good weekened. We spent a couple of nights just hanging out together and enjoying each other. Small things start to mean so much during this process, and I am enjoying the smiles, the occasional sweet word, and the unsolicited touches. Even more than the ML, these signs signify some normalcy has returned to my life. However, I am trying to remain vigilant b/c I know that tomorrow I could wake up and find him cold and distant again (does that worry ever go away???).
I also wanted to say that my approach to DBing was a bit different b/c my husband felt unloved and neglected (not that he ever would have used those words). Because of that, I had to be very careful about retreating too much. I did give space (no R talks, no interrogations about wherabouts, no sexual aggression), but I also let him feel loved (acts of service, words of affirmation). It is a tricky balance, and I know that I fell to the side of too "lovey" a few times, but I really think this renewed interest in him as a man and as a lover has helped immensely.
