As far as I can tell, you have posted zero evidence in support of this theory. I think your H might be hesitant to suggest/initiate such a scenario because of your tendencies towards LD or because it is simply outside of his sexual comfort zone but I don't think your theory is correct. In fact, I might suggest that part of the reason you manifest as LD sexually is that you are semi-consciously following the rule of sexual "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and therefore trying to make yourself a sexual "stranger" to your H and therefore more attractive.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
