tfh, my W is very protective of the kids so sitters can be difficult to find. We used to have one that's the D of a co-worker of mine that she was very happy with. Unfortunately she's in college now and is extremely busy. I'll just have to let her find one. But yeah, at the end she said she's glad that she went and we both already feel a lot closer than before. Feels like the first step to a long hard journey but let's just say at least I can smell the cheese. :P
As far as approaching your W. Do you guys have kids? My W agreed to go for the kids. She wants to improve communication between us so we stop the bad fights since no matter what we are bound forever because of the kids. But I feel the weekend gave her some hope and she's no longer feeling we won't ever get back together and it's a dead end. The door is ajar so to speak. Really there is absolutely nothing to lose for her to go. It's not sessions and sessions of MC. It's just a weekend. It's not like she's going to be brain washed.... Sometimes it does make people realize that things aren't hopeless. And it is very private. You only discuss and share things in the privacy of your own hotel room. No one will ask anything about you. Everything is between you and your W. Basically you have these couples present their experience and how they used the dialogue method to understand each other's feelings. And then you answer questions by writing letters to each other and then attempt to understand what was written. There is no judging, only understanding.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
