Sure you care a little too much. It's not like you can flip a switch or something. You're a good husband and a great father. Men like that can't just decide not to care.
"How can you do this?" seems like all of our thoughts and reactions boil down to this one thing.
You're doing a good job of keeping it together. Especially as you're starting to see who she really is right now.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory