KS, man I was thinking about this very thing all night. I've now addressed all her major issues with me. She's on the fence in some way I think and not willing to or wanting to make a commitment. It's like she fears it's all a front and will go away. Its not a front, its the new me.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
Today I heard those three words for the firt time in a long time...I was not going to be the one to say it first...even though I know we were both wanting too...it was important for me to hear those words from her first...we are telling the kids tomorrow that they are moving home soon....all though they know something is up and mom and dad are spending a lot of time together...d-14 has already figured it out...but can't wait to see the smiles on their faces. My attitude is this...if it took a D and a whole lot of pain to get it right...then so be it...I feel blessed.
hi kidsaver, glad to hear that your w wants to get back togeter with you. Dont know if your a spiritual person but a great website is rejoiceministries.com they always talk about not giving up hope for your marriage even if there is a divorce. my H is having an affair . he was home for the past 7 weeks but has moved back to his apt. last wed. because I pressured him to unplug the phone over there. because i snooped and saw ow was leaving messages there. now im really sorry i pressured him. I think H was trying to cut it off with ow too. he said she was going to go back to her H. she has her own apt now. hope you have a nice holiday.
Awesome! You have been such a friend to me and your advice throughout is one of the reason I am also enjoying an amazing restoration with my W!!!! I am soooo happy for you!
I am over on the MLC forum....but, post infrequently these days. Like you, I feel a debt to the DB forum for all of the great friends here who helped us selflessly....you included! I am so excited for your whole family!
Brief update: one year ago?...my W asked me to leave the house for Thanksgiving so she could entertain friends! This year? We have over 20 people staying with us for the whole week...including a family that is undergoing some major difficulties that has been living with us for the last 3 months! None of this would have been possible unless our marriage was intact. As many have said Divorce affects hundreds of people.....but the flipside is that your restoration will also affect hundreds in a VERY positive way! Praise God!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
