I only orgasm from direct stimulation, not from just regular intercourse. He is on anti-d. meds that have caused him to have a more difficult time coming. That has been kind of a recent issue whereas he used to be self conscious that he would come too quickly, now it's like we're both ready for him to because we're getting tired or the kids are in the other room, etc.
Once after a few days of tension, an argument began shortly after he got home from work and from out of nowhere, he asked, in a disgusted voice, "When's the last time you came when we were [censored]?"
Hmmm....if a guy ever said that to me I would reply "When's the last time you came from having your buttocks massaged?" I think you ought to buy your H a copy of "She Comes First" and yourself a copy of "He Comes Next". Actually, besides a bit of the usual garden variety ignorance on the topic, I don't think sex is the real problem in your relationship. I have empathy for both you and your H since I was the HD spouse in my relationship but my 2bx verbally hassled me about "sexy" in the same way your H hassles you about "sex". You need to figure out your own sexual identity/preferences and assert it strongly (like by saying "Baby, if you want me to come strong and easy then play with my clit while you f*ck me."- of course, it would be nice if you smiled pleasantly when you said this and didn't verbalize the "duh" )and then you will be more comfortable adding a few doo-dads here and there to please your H. This is analogous to being a woman who is generally comfortable with her physical appearance/style and therefore is happy to wear the shiny red lipstick and football jerseys her current swain prefers- lol.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
