Friendly contact with former W. She thanked me again for the support at her mom's funeral and for being so friendly with her. She is sad. FIL came to see her over Veterans Day weekend and he too is sad. She is really hurting.
I told her anything she needed ... Her response: "I haven't talked with Lawyer lately so I don't know if anything more has transpired. I would like to finalize the settlement - that would help me more than anything."
My mom turned 90 over the weekend. She looks good but is slowing down. Guess you have the right to do that at 90.
I cooked her a big meal (homemade pasta) and I had the kids so it was a bit of a party. She enjoyed herself. I put only three candles on the cake, one for each 30 yrs. I told her if I put on 90 candles, she would have dropped dead after trying to blow them out.
S10 had a early field trip Monday; I had to get him to school by 0530. So I asked former W to keep D6 Sunday night b/c school does not open until 0700. I told fW that I would run D6 by her house after I dropped my mom home after dinner ... or ... I told her she was welcome to come and have cake with us and then get D6.
To my surprise, former W came over and had cake with us. She even got a card for my mom. Stayed about an hour. Still no eye contact with me but she did visit with my mom some.
My mom seemed pleased she came. Mom showed me the card fW gave her. fW wrote "Love Always". My mom's comment was "If she loved us she would not be doing what she is doing".
Hope I am that smart when I turn 90.
You know, during fW's visit, I could not help but think how much I missed those sort of family things most of all. Birthdays and such. Sharing a meal.
Just sharing.
But I looked at former W and all I felt was indifference. I miss the "family", but not her. Part of me feels sad about that, but part of me does not.
Is that the way I should feel? Somehow it all feels wrong.
I get the kids for Thanksgiving. That will be fun.
