I saw the children today and saw my WAW. I told her that I had been to my S11 parent teacher meeting on Friday and she said I thought we were going together. I said that we had spoken about this a month ago and you have not approached me since to arrange anything so I went ahead and did it myself.
S11 is failing math and social studies in 6th Grade. I do not blame him with everything he has had to go through. He does not like OM and the situation he is in and does not get any help from WAW or OM with his homework and gets picked on by OM for being a typical boy of 11 years old.
She did not like me doing this without her but I do not care as she has not shown much respect or love and attention to S11 in my opinion and he needs help through this sitch and I am going to support him as any good father would.
WAW does things regarding the children that she does not involve me in and does not tell me about. Why the fu** does she do this and then get pissy when I do it for my son's well being.
I had to laugh. She said did you see his teachers. I said yes it was a parent teacher conference about S11 and therefore, I saw his teachers. She said what did you talk about. I said you can read it in the e-mail I sent you.
I am worried about OM's discipline of S11 and told the teachers and counselor of this. I want them to keep an eye out for changes in S11 emotional state and if they find any physical evidence of abuse, to get involved. Counselor said they have to report to CPS by law if they suspect anything.
I may be over reacting but I feel more comfortable that they are watching out for him as well.
I also asked her whether she had heard from her Mother lately and WAW said not for 2 weeks as she had not sent birthday cards in mail, only e-cards. So they were not talking. I said that I wanted to e-mail her (I want to make my peace as I had dis-owned her for telling my WAW to ransack the house for furniture and to take all the money from the joint bank account).
MIL advice to WAW was evil towards me. So why contact her? I do not know exactly, I can not really explain it but I feel a lot different in myself since the bomb, now DB'ing and feeling more calm and confident. May be a spiritual thing going on where I need to forgive people/WAW/me.
Does this make sense to anyone on these boards?
WAW said why do you want to contact my mother, Is there a problem? WTF is my WAW worried about? is there a problem? I said no, you are the one with the issue with your mother and you are the one who has to deal with it. I just want to contact her.
Lastly, I asked her what was going on for Thanksgiving in respect of the kids for sharing the day as I did not want to interfere with the dinner and she said they were not having Thanksgiving! I said why, we always had Thanksgiving even in England. She did not give an answer. I asked S11 later and he said that it was most probably because WAW's Mother would not be coming as OM's house is the pits and she would not even want to walk into it.
However, why can she not have a Thanksgiving just with OM and children? My WAW is acting stranger and stranger and I am getting fed up with all the bs. I have lost respect for her in relation to what she is or is not doing regarding the children and what she has put them through and at this point I am not sure whether I would take her back if she wanted to come back. I think she is immature, needy of OM and insecure as well as neglectful of the children (selfish) and OM is welcome to it.
I will do everything for my children and myself and that is it. I know this may not be divorce busting but I feel as though I am changing, getting stronger, know where my priorities lie and moving on.
