Anned - thanks for posting. Your comments made me stop and think...I hadn't thought about the way that I view my spouse as seeing him as he is, not as he was or possibly will be. I hadn't considered that angle before.
While I appreciate what your minister friend said, I have a hard time accepting it. For some stupid reason, I am very ashamed of the way that my marriage is ending....truth be told - I am mortified. And I do think it is wrong the way that it is ending. I got blindsided and never had a chance. That, to me, is just wrong. And while it may be loving to respect my H's wishes and let him go....it appears very selfish to me. Again - it is all about his wishes and what he wants.
You don't know how much I appreciate your thoughts and support tonight.
For some reason, I am having a tough time tonight. No reason and I feel stupid for feeling this way. Others on the board here have such negative encounters with their spouses - and they have good reason to have down days.
I have no interaction. And, at times, it is difficult to deal with that. I am just sad tonight.
Free advice to all.....buy Kleenex stock....I have a feeling sales will be going up this holiday season!
