The Good, the Bad, and the Funny Part 6

[SallyM]

hey, mk!

sounds like you had a good time. I think going out, having some fun, meeting some new people is a good thing. I'm slowly getting ready for it myself, although I'm not sure how long it will be before I am ready for a full fledged relationship. at the same time, I've never been good at dating...I've always been a R type of girl. so will be a whole new challenge. but I will definitely take the lorelai gilmore approach...she sheilded rory from that side of her life until max. and then it was a fluke that they ran into each other. I just want to know its something very long term/permanent before they meet anyone I am with. I don't want them to feel any more desertion, should they get attached to a person I am with and that r should end. I don't know, lots to think about on that front.

as for a stuff buddy (I assume I know what you mean by stuff?), well, btdt years and years ago and it didn't work out. I thought I was pretty smooth about it, and definitely upfront about it, and thought I had a good thing going, but the guy got too attached. I backed off, he promised he wouldn't, I went with it, then I was the one who ended up too attached. I'm just not cut out for it. I think its one of those good in theory things, but in practice, not so good.

now, that said, I don't think love is necessary, either. love to me is something I have only shared with 2 men in my life. and my "stuff" number is higher than that. I don't regret any, except the one I tried to use a true stuff-buddy (this is cracking me up) because we were good friends...we didn't date, I didn't want that kind of R with him. dating and doing stuff, well, that is different. but then again, I would want it to be exclusive.

wow, I'm just really musing here on your thread. so much to think about.

hope you are well. keep us updated. I miss seeing you around!