I've been posting over on Divorced but not done. I have a feeling this board is probably more appropriate for me. My divorce was final in August and it took about a 10 months from the time my ex-wife filed. You can read my story under "Divorced, but still hoping for a miracle", so I won't repeat myself here.
MLC had never even entered my mind until I had mentioned how my ex was acting to a friend. She started getting into running just before her 40th birthday and has run a couple of marathons. I hardly ever see her, but have heard that she is wearing clothes that a 20-year-old would wear. She has lost just about every friend that she had prior to our divorce. She recently bought a red Toyota that almost could pass for a sports car. It isn't a Corvette, but it might as well be. My kids told me that they can't eat in her car. I find this extremely ironic, since I had try to enforce this rule while we were married because I was the only one that ever cleaned the car.
I also found out right after our divorce that she had been seeing OM. This really caught me by surprise. She has been so secretive about it and has barely told her family about him. Ever since I brought the OM up to her, she hasn't spoken a word to me. She won't answer my phone calls (which I keep to issues regarding the kids). If I'm lucky, she might return an email.
Anyway, without going on too long, she fits the MLC description perfectly. Mutual friends say she has totally lost it. I've heard that you must let it run its course. 2 - 5 years seems like a really long time. It's actually been about 18 months since our separation. Sometimes I wonder if it is worth trying to wait it out, especially when she acts so selfish and treats me like crap.
I guess I'm probably not going to help your situation out much as yours is a little different. It just makes me feel a little better to write about mine and hope that someday it will get better.
