And you think you screwed up - BACK AGAIN

[mkultra]

Thank you Kiki for having the compassion to help others in this common situation. I think DBers are a different breed of people altogether. I have seen so many folks throw in the towel because of pride or family pressure. I am probably one of those people . I also fel guilt about contributing to the downfall of our marriage but I cannot hold out hope that my husband will ever be able to let go of his new found perversions. I am sure people get tired of that life , I just mean he will feel too lost and guilty. I guess DB may have showed him a safer happier path home but I suspect peer pressure, depression and a bit of substance abuse just excacerbated our sitch.

BUT I am happier. I feel like a single mom now.

Rys, I am sorry about your sitch. I heard that an affair is highly addictive and because I have never and would never choose that I find it hard to relate too. BUT I picture that it may be the same feeling I get when I try to give up on my Marriage. Maybe that is the same feeling they have. Maybe affairs appear more passionate to the wayward spouse but in reality these Rs need to burn out a natural death. My H is going on Month 8 of his affair that no one thought would last more than three months. I hear he is extremely smothering of his OW.