Mopsey, It's a one step forward, two steps backward w/the mlcer. The mlcer tends to wear a mask of being fine to others, but when it comes to us, in some instances, they pull out the "poor me" mask. If his family is starting to see him as being a bit off the scale, then good for them. It's time they realized that their son is having a crisis and needs some professional care.
Yep, it's time to change things a bit. If something doesn't work, try something different and it appears that all of you are starting to get on the same page. Once life becomes a bit more difficult for him, he'll have to settle down and start to focus on himself. He's had it very easy thus far and if his family begins to change things up, it just might jump start him in the tunnel to begin moving forward. At least that's what I'm hoping for.
Mopsey, as for Thanksgiving, you do what you and children would like to do. Don't change your plans for your h. It's now time for him to understand that life doesn't revolve around him. When he begins to sense that you are moving forward, he's going to play the "dance" with you. That will be the time you will need to remain strong and not get sucked back into his little drama. They all do it and I don't think they even realize that they are doing it.
Mopsey, just wanted to share w/you that my father is slowly recovering, but he's got a long way to go. Reminds me of the mlcer's yellow brick road, i.e. everything has to happen on their time. My family and I are having to practice that old "patience" routine w/my father's health, but one thing is for sure, he's still got a sound mine!
I do hope that you and your family have a blessed and happy Thanksgiving, in spite of it all.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
