Wow, GD. I am so sorry for this ugly turn of events. I can understand how disappointing and frustrating it must be.
Getting money on top of the 700 per month does seem pretty ridiculous. You guys have 50/50 custody, right? What is the 700 anyway? Just discretionary? Yeah, I would say she is looking that gift horse in the mouth. Regardless, I agree with Puddle that she is probably acting out of fear and maybe a few other emotions too. I know that what she is doing is pretty cruddy, but do try to remind yourself of where this is probably coming from with her. Hopefully that will remind you not to act from your emotions too.
I also know that is must be frustrating that, after all the changes you have made within yourself, that this is the direction she ends up going. I can see how it might feel that all your work was done for nothing, but, underneath it all, you know that is not true. The new person you have become is such a gift to yourself and anyone else who gets to be a part of your life. It is unfortunate that STBX can't or won't appreciate those changes, but that is her loss, not yours.
