Angelica, No matter how many times you mull the situation over, the answers will not come to you. Why? Because the problem isn't with you at all, it is with your h. He's the one that became dissatisfied with things. For example, my xh said that nothing had changed at home, after he had left and come home the first time. I looked around and thought, well...I don't know what else you want changed, because I sure as heck have changed everything in our lives to meet your needs.
Angelica, long story short, they honestly don't know what it is they are looking for. Some will say I don't know, but I can promise you this, when it presents itself, I'll know it's the right person/situation. So, dear Angelica, do not beat yourself up because his crisis is his and his alone. There's nothing you can do about it.
But, you on the other hand, can continue to look to the future and keep the focus on yourself and your family. You are such a wonderful and delightful person and shame on him for not being there w/you. He's the one that's getting the short end of the stick that life has to offer. No matter who he hooks up with, you will out shine her.
BTW, we all have questioned ourselves many times over and I can assure you, the answers will not come to you, except that it's his problem.
Have a beautiful week.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
