You are doing a great job of handling this crummy situation with maximum honor and dignity. She is not happy with the mature, consistent Jarhead that doesn't engage in her drama. Despite your feelings for her (dwindling, in know) you are being true to yourself and your girls. Good for you!
I'm wondering how "new" these behaviors are. If you look back at the first years of your marriage, did she play any of these types of games? In my experience, people don't change all that much...they just reveal themselves.
