I am becoming increasingly concerned, from what I read from others, that after 2 years I STILL don't know what was wrong with my marriage. All my h can say is that he isn't physically attracted to me any more [despite an active intimate life right up until the bomb]. He can't explain why . . . nor does he see that it is a problem. As far as he is concerned, when we last spoke, it is absolutely fine to leave a long marriage, if you find yourself more attracted to someone else.
I have tried to fix the things that I need to fix, but I can't fix my lack of attraction - I am slender, well groomed, and men find me attractive. He can't tell me what it is about me that doesn't attract him, and denies that he used to find me irresistable [which is true].
I just don't know what to do. I thought our marriage was happy. We had fun together, made plans, did stuff. Rarely quarrelled, although we aregued about interesting stuff like politics and music and books. We had shared tastes. We adored our kids.
People say, if you think about it you will remeber that your marriage wasn't that great, or there were things you really needed to fix. It sounds so arrogant, but my h used to say how lucky he was to be married to me . . . .
