Stop judging her. Period. You are receiving excellent advice...so..do it.

Maybe it's a rebound. Maybe it will be love forever. Maybe she'll marry the guy. It's entirely out of your control.

You simply can't say that you are the absolute, one and only person who will ever love her. Because that's not true. In all honesty, telling her that no one else could love her like you do, is controlling. Period. Telling her that no one else could love her like you do because she is difficult/needy/(fill in the blank) is not only controlling, it reminds me an awful lot of one of those checklist items you see for abusive relationships.

Stop judging her dating life.

There's nothing you can do about it. Be a father to your children for awhile, and that's it.

Stop arguing with us, it's wasted energy. ;\) Stop saying you can't do it...because you can, if you want to. (Nobody said it was easy.)

Focus on just you and your kids for awhile. Try to see what it is about you that you so desperately need to have this woman back. That sounds like a pretty good starting point for your own self-examination.

Work on some GAL. Try IC.

All of this focusing on her, isn't getting you anywhere.

Azhira

my confusion