Mixed signals - catfan's continual saga part???

[FaithfulH]

Catfan,

I think this was a great step! There are SO many parallels in our sitch...so, if that continues (and I believe it will), you aren't far away from your W making a major recommitment to work on the R with you! Like you, there came a point where I felt I had to start honestly sharing with my W what MY thoughts for the future were. Just remember, it wasn't that long ago that she WOULDN'T HAVE CARED WHAT YOU THOUGHT! My W also said, "I don't know if the changes I see (which I like very much) are permanent" Because we may have been guilty of manipulative behavior in the past (at least I was), they wonder if these changes are just to get them back! They're not....but, you have to be VERY cautious not to "accidentally" display any of the old you. However, you are not perfect...and, while a miraculous transformation in you has taken place, we're all susceptible to "remission". I overcame (overcome?) this by admitting up front that I won't be perfect even in the future...but, acknowledging that the difference today is that I am much more AWARE of the things I have done to hurt my W...and I am quicker to ask for forgiveness. In fact, I've asked her to tell me on the spot (or as quickly as she is comfortable) when I have hurt her. Our R continues to improve at an amazing pace....I have to be careful not to grin to much! LOL

The R that is in front of you and your W is the closest thing to heaven you can possible imagine! I am excited for you!