Woah, he is still sitting on that fence big time. On one hand, it's good that he sees/feels your pain or at least knows that this is not fair to you on the other, his justifications are just sad! He can't work things out with you if he's still with her -- so he blames that on you because he thinks your efforts to change won't stick? That you're great friends, but that's it? The fact that he said he was skeptical of her as well just proves that. At least you got to talk and be heard.
The affection after the talk means he is still attached to you, too, I think. I don't think I would have been able to let my H touch me after that. I would be going down the LRT, or 'going dark' road at that point ... and asking him to move out. I also agree that he doesn't understand the magnitude of what he is about to lose!
I agree with ourcrisis, he is probably going to change his mind a few more times. And while he does that, what will you be doing?
Take some time to forget him today! GAL and be with the kids. Take care of yourself.
