Thanks Sandi, I have been really struggling with what I should do. I told my D that mom was having problems about what she is doing and struggling with the divorce. I told her that the next time they go shopping she should ask her mom what's wrong and that she is acting very strange. Knowing my W, she wont tell my D anything, as she is still in the denial stage. My question is, if W doesnt tell D anything, should I be the one to tell her if she comes to me and asks? My W has denied the A since I found out, and she says he is just a friend who has gone through this before and is helping her. Over the last week and a half, my W has now been just leaving the house without telling anyone, and my D is noticing. At this point I dont care what my W does, but my D comes to me to ask where mom is going. I just tell her that mom has a problem and she doesnt tell me anything anymore. She has been spending long hours at work, and in fact wanted to bitch at me late friday afternoon, b/c I couldnt take my D to pick her car up at the garage. I was going to a football playoff game with my S, and I wasnt going to change those plans. S is home for thanksgiving now, and hasnt come home either friday nite or saturday nite. He has been staying at a friends house. He knows that I have been sleeping in his room, and on friday nite he said that he wasnt coming home and I could sleep in his room. I did, but last nite I pulled out the sofa bed downstairs. I am going to have to maybe find an air mattress or something else to sleep on b/c the sofa bed doesnt do anything for me. Last nite my D and boyfriend, and W went for dinner, and I was suprised how chatty and interested my W was in everything that was going on. Over the last few weekends, my W has been making other plans, and I was floored when she went with us last nite. She was talking this morning, sunday, about putting a roast in the oven when she got home from church. She hasnt cooked anything for the last 3 or 4 weeks. She is still going to church without me, and I am just so confused at this point as to what is going on. One week she is very miserable and moody and doing her own thing, then all of a sudden she is chatty and seems to want to talk to me. I dont know how long I can ride this rollercoaster. I am at the point that I cant stand being in the same room as my W. I cant stand to look at her when she talks. She was talking to me at home after we got home last nite, and it was all I could do to look at her and acknowledge her. The holidays are coming and I am not looking forward to doing anything. I usually take some vacation days over this time, but I dont want to be home when W is there. Was reading the MLC for dummies on the mlc thread yesterday, and my W is doing about 3/4 of what is on there. Just one day at a time I guess. Going to church soon, will have to pray for guidance, as I dont think I have any right now. Talk to you soon. Take care.
