I Will Survive!

[erinr]

Hey ShinyBear,

I'm glad to see things are good and boring for you! But it sometimes feels like when you leave the amusement park. The calm and quiet is good, yet the roller-coaster is still slightly appealing. And I don't mean the bad parts, none of us want to live through the hell we've all been through but it's such an adrenaline rush that the calm after the storm is a bit of a let down. I know I'm not making any sense. It does in my head, I just am not able to get it out properly . Hopefully you know what I mean .

I did have a comment on a previous post.

So hard in my sitch (glad to know I'm not alone), where the woman is the one with the higher sex drive. It just seems so ironic! H could be with one of thousands of women for whom making love is at the bottom of the priority list, and I could be with the majority of men who find physical love to be a priority.

But no, we're with each other.

I totally feel for you. I have "Sex-Starved Marriage" as well and totally identify with the higher sex drive partner. I remember early in our M, we negotiated down to 2x/week and it never took. That was a good part of my resentment. We haven't discussed it again yet. After the kids were born, my sex drive went down a lot. It rebounded but then we were well on our way down the spiral. My H would be perfectly happy with once every week or two...and only on the weekend. I could walk out buck naked on a Tuesday and he would ask me to move out of the way of the tv!! I haven't read the second part of the book, but I'm starting it soon. Just wanted to let you know you're not the only one. Unfortunately, the two of us probably just gave everyone WAY too much info!! GOod thing this is a BB, not a meeting!

Ok, one last question and I will end this monstrous post. You posted to Sage and said you knew she was on. How? I've seen other people say that, too. Is it the timing of the posts? or is there a way to know who the "registered users" are?

Erin