The fat lady is warming up.... 2

[OldFool]

Thanks for dropping in. By the way, your own thread is due for an update

(Anyone else remember Shazam! from the early 70's?)

Somebody's been taking a ride in the "way-back machine". Personally, I recall it more as PFC Gomer Pyle's favorite exclamation.

This is a longshot, OF - but have you considered just talking it out with your W directly? Bypass the liars, I mean lawyers. You guys aren't that far off in the negotiation and some direct interaction between the two of you may benefit YOU. Of course, my hope is that you would hug-it-out. But at the least, maybe it will allow her to understand that you are sincere in your beliefs and not aiming to harm her.

Great idea! Only problem is, I've already tried. I spent a good portion of June and July working on a list of assets, values, etc. and essentially made the offer described above (a few changes have been made in the intervening months), provided my rationale, and invited discussion without attorneys. I got nothing in return except silence, stonewalling, and excuses. By August I was done trying and counter-filed for D in September. Sadly, logic and reasoning are only useful with someone who is capable of being logical and reasonable. My STBXW is neither (or perhaps just sheer greed is overriding both). Either way, it appears time to begin singing, "Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to court we go...."

Praying the wisdom of Solomon on you - and thinking of you often.

Thanks. I'm just weary now and ready to get on with the rest of my life. The other day I realized the saddest thing. If someone told me tomorrow my STBXW were dead, I'd be more relieved than sad. Thinking back to what I felt eight years ago, I can barely believe that is possible, let alone that it has happened. The realization has left me depressed beyond words.