It is so nice to see a man with open feelings. My H left Nov 5th -- I found out he was moving out and getting his place ehrn I ran into him at the cell phone store with his truck fully loaded; He said he seeked legal counsel for a "D" -- I left iwth the kids that night came back the next day and he wouldn't leave -- so I calle dthe police -- He agreed to leave so I pack a few things for the kids on a Sunday night (school teh next day) in the midst of it all, as I was having a nervous breakdown with my doctor on the phone -- I was reading his email -- found an email from her -- he comes home after I call him on it -- tells me he thinks he ahs feelings fro her. He left that night Oct 14th -- I had to get a restraining order cause Ifelt he would take the kids, there has minor Domestic Violience inthe past, and it has exculated with time -- but it doesn't happen alot, and we always worked things out -- He had his lawyer draw up an agreement that stated that we would attend marriage counseling and etc, etc, etc ... I set up appointmetns he wouldnot talk about his affair and when we talked on the phones if we were not talking about hte kids, he would hang up on me, so in one couseling meeting I agreed to let him hav ethe kids weekend of Nov 9-11th well he had cashed out a large soem of funds from his IRA to be depoisted into his pirvate account; it was 3 day weekend and I feared once agian he would run with the kids. He had also called me at worked on wed before the Fri of the visitation and he had gotten confrontational with an asst sup -- my employer requested that I pull another restaining order to protect myself and my fellow employees. Have to admit that was scary, went to counseling she said I lost control cause I let teh first one go, she agreed to get another restraining order, went to my doctor she also agreed to get another restraining order -- So I did now we can't talk, email etc... He was using my oldest son to communicate aobut my where abouts and what I was doing wwith him, I answered the cell phone, would't let him talk to teh children and he callled the serivce and had my cell and my son's cell disconnected. that was Friday Nov 9th Saturday morning shows up unannouce and tries to get in but my girlfriends and I changed the locks they convinced me that he no longer lives here he should not have free acess to come and go. From the time I lifted the first restraining order Oct 22 thru Nov 5th if we had a fight he would call 911 to document the DV -- he was sending me emails at work -- to document our ocnverstaions so I stopped answering emails, after he called my work and confronted my asst supv about my where abouts. He is having an A with a co-worker of his, I found the email got phone records form July to now, he is currently loking for another job, cause they can't be caught working in the same department. I love this man did you hear me ? We have been married 17 years have 3 sons and started out with nothing not even 2 pennies to rub together! Now he has chosen to be with another women and he has been seen wtih her 2 times in my small town, once at the police station it even states in teh report he was going to spend the night with a friend, seh quickly ducked in the car. then on Sunday night Nov 11 -- my best friend ran into him at the grocery store with her getting pizza, a bottle of wine, and pizza cutter he had her go to a different line and check out there -- how degrating for her I thought and I was angry what If that would have been me -- and tgeh kids then what? Well he finally got serve papers on the 13th -- he hasn't e-mailed me sinceor called the house. Oh yea he won't even tell me where he lives, told me he doesn't owe me an explaination, -- he ordered cable fro his apt, adn the cable commpany gave me the address; so I have been going over there every night about 3-4 am to see if he is there I see his truck there and then I go home and finally get a few hours of sleep -- I have missed work for the month of Oct, and Nov, cause my nerves can not take anymore. He took all finicial records, the checkbooks, left us high and dry little did I know that the last time we would go to the grocery store would be the last. I haven't a clue of what is being paid -- I went and ordered checks so that I could pay the bills to have a roof over our head, and the car and food I have been pulling out cash so I can hide it in case I need cash when he closes the account. I'm sure he will soon, stop the gas card, etc.... I have been reading Divorce busting, the 7 steps I went straight to tragic mood and started the 180 although he has not reliezed it yet -- cause we have not spoken -- I am still shaking from the time this all started. Very upsetting that after 18 years -- my friends are totally shocked never thought he would be the one to have an affair - Hopeless in Seattle!
