I am the same with my W we are both friendly with each other, but as the far as the R it is a done deal. They seem cold, but I know deep down they are hurting the coldness is their front. It takes time hopefully she will see some changes in you and will want to put her guard down a little and talk about the R. How long will it take who knows I would say months for sure.
Me - 34 W - 33 S - 5 D - 4 M - 14 years Bomb 1 Dec 06 Bomb 2 Aug 07 Separated - Aug 07 WAW Renting own place - Dec 07