Walk Away Wife - My Sitch

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I kind of feel like I'm talking to myself here, but I find it cathartic, so whatever...

It's amazing how your whole outlook can change in the matter of a few hours. Dinner went well. She loved her presents. In fact, she couldn't wait to open them and opened them while we were still waiting to be seated. I got a kiss for my efforts. Dinner started out good. I resolved to remain positive no matter what. It was mostly small talk and what not during dinner. I cracked a few jokes and got a smile or two. Nothing big really.

After dinner, we were still sitting at the table and she started to seem really down. She kept asking me how I was doing and I said that I was doing really good. I talked about what I had been up to and how my GAL things were really giving me a positive outlook on life. I had finished talking and we were both quiet for a minute, so I asked her how she was doing. At first she said good. Then she said not really. She told me how she felt lost and is worried about the decisions that she is making. She said that she has a hard time concentrating and how she needs to get her act together. She said how much she missed our pets and asked me about how the house was doing. She said that she was sorry. I just actively listened and validated where I found necessary. I'm really worried about her as she sounds depressed. I encouraged her to go seek professional help. I said that there are people that love and care about you and you should look to them for help. I told her that I would be there for her whenever she needed me.

Then she asked me what I was doing the rest of the night. I told her the truth that my brother was coming down to stay the night. Then she said oh, I was hoping to come down and hang out. I thought we could sit on the couch and watch some TV. I said that I could cancel with my bother, but she wouldn't let me. So, I said call me tomorrow if you want. You're welcome to the house anytime. I said if you just want to see the dogs that I could go do something. Her reply was no, she wanted me there too.

I feel like tonight was a huge breakthrough. Only made possible because I kept my wits about me and my PMA going. I almost had a HUGE backslide that would have ruined the whole evening. While we were waiting for our food I noticed that she wasn't wearing her wedding ring. It took all that I had not to say anything about it. I am so glad that I didn't though. I know that it would have destroyed the entire evening.
Peace to All,
B