Actually we didn't get divorced...it is still pending though because he has some legal things to take care of that I don't want to be party too...left overs of his MLC...
I do know a few friends of mine that got D'ed and then reconciled...H had mentioned at one point during the time that we were discussing the possibilities...that he wouldn't mind getting D'ed and then starting over down the road...
but I don't think it would have been any more difficult after then before except that I would have had to wait to re-marry before he moved back in with us...
What was so difficult as that even though he came home...he was still very much a broken man...just coming out of the MLC with tons of baggage with him...it was a tough time...and I had to be tougher then I was before and not afraid to lose him again...mainly his drinking was not going to go over with all of us...I had to call 9-1-1 twice and have him taken to the hospital and treated for alcoholism...he finally admitted to the problem, got treatment and things started progressing again... There were times before he was having his depression treated that he was just a mess...and not very nice to me...to the point that one time I asked him to leave...but he refused...it was definitely a transitional period with lots of hot spots to get over and around...
During that time I needed even more patience....more compassion....and more love....more strength....more reliance on God...and more focus...then all the many many months previous...
In my mind I had imagined this romantic reunion...renewed honeymoon period...and everything rosey for every more...not exactly how it started...I had to keep trusting and keep the faith that it would all work out...eventually...and it did!!!
