Soul, You have my sympathies about last night. It's hard to function when they're up to their antics. The hurt, the pain and the anxiety are awful. No, she has no idea the pain she is putting you through. She is only thinking of herself. And you're absolutely right, she is trying to fill a void with OM, but it's a fantasy.
When or if you do confront her, remember not to beg or plead. She's going to be pretty p.o.'d and will justify everything she's doing. Remember to keep it cool. It would not be a time to talk about a possible reconciliation.
After that talk, I would concentrate on DB, set some goals for GAL and see how that goes. It's time to take care of yourself.
How was the son's t-ball game? That's a great age.
