I pulled myself out of bed at around noon. Ever have one of those days where you feel like you could just sleep right through it?
Well that's me today. So H has gone to his Sis's for the March/April family birthday celebration (including mine ) on his own.
Was very nice and understanding. I'm rather looking forward to an entire afternoon alone in the house. It's been a very long time.
Sage, and everyone else with these issues, here's another book title for you: "Stop Controlling Me!" by Richard J. Stenack PhD.
It's a small paperback, easy reading, but very insightful as to just what controlling behaviours are, where they come from (family of origin, childhood) and why they might emerge in an R...looks at both sides, the "controller" and the "controlled". How to break the cycle etc.
What's interesting to me is that although I have been cast as the main Controller in our R, there are certain aspects of H's behaviour which were/are themselves controlling (witholding affection for one).
We had an interesting, lighthearted exchange just before he left today. I was in the back room on the lazy boy reading the Control book. I mentioned (for at least the second time, how good it was, how he should read it).
He sat on the other chair to chat, so I rested the book on the arm of my chair. Our cat M jumped up on me and he said "Move that book, Mommy so I can sit there". (Yes we engage in talking through our cats ).
Mock angry, I waved the book at him and said "Stop trying to control me!!!" (The title is in very large print).
To which H responded (laughingly, it was all very lighthearted) "Stop trying to control me by making me read your control book!" I play-swatted him and said "Good one!!!".
And it was, no? Rather a nice way to say, I get it. It's a good book, maybe I'll give it a glance if you give it a rest!!! Great to have some levity back in our lives.
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