I identify with your worry that if H has been unfaithful multiple times before, the odds of him slipping again increase.
I'm still new here, but my life experiences include knowing other guys, esp in the military. Just my 2 cents.
I never even looked at another woman until my marriage started falling apart. (not beating my drum, that's just me.) Even then, I just looked, not even sniffed.
Anyway, if a man is getting what he needs at home, he won't go looking for it somewhere else.
Seriously. I'm sorry that we're so shallow, but it's the truth. (For most of us anyway.) All other major problems aside, (money, violence, nutty behavior, etc.) that's what men need to make them feel part of the marriage. Yep, we're that shallow. If that is taken care of, then men feel connected and focus on things like communicating, sharing, and R building.
Most men anyway. MLCers excepted. MLCers are CRAZY....
I wish they were crazy in a fun way.
S3x isn't the only thing men want in in a marriage, but it is often the first thing.
I read somewhere...
Men need s3x to feel connected, women need to feel connected to want to have s3x.
Who gives first?
Your husband is soooo lucky to have you waiting for him.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
