What a good year this has been.....

[forever21]

Thanks, Nikki. Really nice to hear from you. Not surprising you thought the same thing about my thread title. It could sure be said that this is proving to be a "bad" year... one of, if not, the worst... as it is, and has been, in many ways. The way I'm choosing to look at it (for my own sanity probably) is in a positive light. Of course that's not always possible, but that's what I try to do. Gotta have hope in life. Really, the bad stuff has been doing me a favor.... helping me move on... opening doors and showing me some light. Thank you very much for the compliments. Wow. It makes me feel really good to know that reading my thread title makes you feel like that.

It feels good to know that I helped make a positive difference for you. Thank you for sharing that. It was great meeting you back in the Spring. It's all a journey, isn't it? I believe each of us are really doing the best we can at any given point in time. My mom and I were just talking about that last night. We went over to the bookstore because she wanted me to read the book Who Moved My Cheese? Good little book and story. She read it a few months ago for her job... her employer is big on it. Us DBers know what cheeseless tunnels are already, but that book's a nice reminder to Move with The Cheese and leaves you with a good feeling. Nothing eye-opening for me but helpful nonetheless.

Yesterday proved there is more to be mindful of, that's for sure. I've no doubt the reason I didn't end the day feeling fearful is because I did listen to my gut and took action. I see that it's very important I continue to act right now. One of my goals is to address more of the tasks on my semi-urgent to-do list each day. Really glad I picked up more of my doc's anxiety tincture this week. Proved to be a smart proactive move on my part.

No need to answer here if you don't want to but - IS he offering you some great amazing deal that he'll sign off on??? It doesn't seem like it but I'd hate to see you miss out on something if he actually is. If not.. he's just being a jerk and trying to push you into signing something that's not a good idea. None of this legal stuff moves that fast unless it's fishy, IMO.

I hear ya, NikB. He is in fact offering a deal that's too good to be true. Believe me, I too don't want to miss out on a great opportunity here. As much as it might appear I should sign, my understanding from my meeting with the L is that there'd still be too great a risk. Without more information, the concern is he could still screw me over in the end by filing for bankruptcy... but he would be left with a home of his own to live in that'd be protected so long as he made the payments on it. I could be left with our home if he signed a quit claim on it like he was offering, if I could keep up with the payments... and I don't know if there is as much equity in this house right now as he'd like to think there is. Could be, but I don't know even under the best of circumstances.

Here's an example of how I'm having to think.... one thought off the top of my head... he could be in such a rush because he's taken out another loan against our house that I don't yet know about. I need to download copies of credit reports, go into my bank to look further into the suspicious activity (which I didn't have time for yesterday), etc, etc. He just wants my signature on that quit claim SO bad and NOW, and in the whole picture I have a lot of suspicion. As Kman reminded me.... if there's any doubt, don't sign the deal. I really need to talk with the L again. But H may be too impatient. He may be very afraid right now because he's at risk of being caught at something. That could explain his behavior.

If the risk can be removed for me somehow, then great, I'd love to sign a good deal. I can only do what I can do though, and this isn't an emergency for anyone but H. You'd think he has someone after him. And he just might. More reason he'd be desperate enough to screw me over. Back when I didn't have so much messing with my head, I was active in option trading. I'm not a risk adverse person is what I'm saying. But this doesn't look right... doesn't look like a "good" deal to me at this point in time. Doesn't mean a good deal won't present itself soon, but it's not right now. Does that make sense?

Wow, I've been long-winded. Thanks again!!! You're a real sweetheart. I'm so happy for you and how well you're doing and feeling lately. Have a great weekend! Sounds like you will.