Hi MAL, Thanks Jethro,

VERY insightful.

Had a great dinner with my Sis and her H last night. Perhaps a little too much wine? Well, not for me.

Was a little envious of how appreciative my BIL is of my sister, in physical and verbal ways. Showing us pics he took of her on their trip to Mexico, compliments and playful physical displays...genuine desire...sigh...

H's tummy was bothering him all day, pretty bad during the night. I ran a few errands and picked up some new books to read. One is Michelle's "Sex starve marriage", another is on Control in R's (want to inform myself), and score of scores...Tara Bennet-Goleman's "Emotional Alchemy...How the mind can heal the heart"....was on sale, hardback, for $6.99 I bought two. My original copy was never returned to me by a student who borrowed it last spring .

It's a great book which combines elements of psychology, family of origin, mindfulness, meditaiton, emotional healing....Foreward is by the Dalai Lama.

So I guess I'll have lots of reading ahead! Almost finished LL, and am thinking that words of affirmation may be tied for second with physical touch...

Just watched "The Usual Suspects" (great film), H is sleeping. So I'll check on some of you!

Shiny