Tough day yesterday. 2 days of no sleep and a cold took me pretty far down physically. Got some sleep though, feeling better this am.
I'm glad you're feeling better. All this stuff is so stressful, it's a wonder we're not sick all the time. Take good care of yourself. Hydrate.
Originally Posted By: CVA
W was super nice to me yesterday, pretty certain the goal in her mind is "good friends" as we get divorced.
This is a great change, whatever her motivation is. Were you able to respond in kind?
Originally Posted By: CVA
Quite frankly I was in no mood to hang out with W and her friend and their family but I went anyway. My attitude more than likely reflected it.... I make no convo with her, smile and focus on kids. All this clearly a change I am not just faking and she noticed but I don't care.
Sounds like you did well with the as-if, despite the fact that you didn't want to be there. Good for you, and for focusing on the kids.
Originally Posted By: CVA
I am writing this to demonstrate to those who might read it that there **is a line** and I have crossed it. It took my W to file but so be it.
We all have our line. I'm wondering, though, about this. Sounds like you've decided you're done, but you're still, what? disappointed in W? maybe angry? I'm not sure, but it sounds more like there are some strong emotions mixed up in there that aren't detachment. What do you think?
Originally Posted By: CVA
Sure I could go, but at least knowing myself I think is a good step.
I agree, that's a great step, the knowing what you want/can handle. Pulling yourself back from family interactions is pretty new for you---W hasn't had a chance yet to feel that reality.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Tonight "could" be intersting!?! Gonna hang out with a new friend and her friends, safety in numbers. YES, I will be careful
Good. I hope you have a wonderful time. Steve's advice was right on---especially the legal part. You and W are so very newly on a more positive footing vis-a-vis one another, and maybe still a bit shaky. Maybe keeping that practical part in mind will help keep the, um, emotional side of things in check with someone else. Pleeeenty of time for you yet.
