My first exh who is my kids dad called me last night to talk about some stuff that was on his mind. He basically told me that this situation was not good for the kids, that dh is not stepping up and being a man and that is a bad example for our kids. That if dh were any kind of a man he would do the right thing and not waltz in and out of our lives when its convenient. That I would be better off alone. He also said he was worried about the kids getting hurt again. He questioned what dh will do when things get tough....run away again to another woman?
I listened to what he said and did my best to assure him that I would protect our kids. But after, I thought about it and pretty much what he has said is dead on.
Dh noticed I was a bit bummed last night so I briefly told him what was said. I couldn't be specific as there were kids walking in and out of the room. All dh said was 'Its none of his business'. It is in a way when it affects our kids. I want to tell him everything exdh said, but couldn't. All I said was exdh was not happy with how we were handling this baby situation and that he was worried about the kids.
I want to tell him more today, but not sure if I should. Knowing dh all he will do is get defensive. What should I do?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
