Hairdog, Your prescription was very good, but you forgot the last step: Drink, and toss in two percosets.
Lil, You can still ice even in a splint.
Good luck on Monday. I am going out of town on Tues., so I hope you will update before I leave. Doc Hairdog is covering while I'm away.
RJ, Oh sure !! Lill gets the good stuff AND percosets !!! And what do I get ??? ROPE & DUCT TAPE!!! I understand the rope, but what exactly do you have in mind for the tape?
Lill, Sorry to hear about your dear friend ((((Lill)))) Good luck on Monday
I don't have any ice, but I've got a gigantic bag of frozen tomato puree (from our tomatoes*) on my foot. I don't feel any of the cold getting through the thick tape-plaster-ace bandage. Maybe some vitamin C is seeping in.
I'm feeling a little bit abandoned, even though my bf's mom had some surgery on a couple of her vertebrae today (and a biopsy) and she's having chemo tomorrow. He's an only child. There's NO one else to be with her who can take his place. I know that. But I still feel a little sad being here by myself.
_____________ *There's a story associated with the tomato puree, but I'm too tired to tell it right now. Maybe tomorrow.
Actually I don't drink anymore. I used to drink some, but I got too disgusted by seeing my bf drunk so much and it turned me off to alcohol. I have a great big bottle of unsweetened green tea on the floor next to me.
And, of course, a cat on my lap... one of the ones who had surgery, not the one who took a bath in leek soup.
LETS CALL THE WHOLE THING OFF By George and Ira Gershwin
Things have come to a pretty pass Our romance is growing flat, For you like this and the other While I go for this and that,
Goodness knows what the end will be Oh I don't know where I'm at It looks as if we two will never be one Something must be done:
You say either and I say either, You say neither and I say neither Either, either Neither, neither Let's call the whole thing off.
You like potato and I like potahto You like tomato and I like tomahto Potato, potahto, Tomato, tomahto. Let's call the whole thing off
But oh, if we call the whole thing off Then we must part And oh, if we ever part, then that might break my heart
So if you like pyjamas and I like pyjahmas, I'll wear pyjamas and give up pyajahmas For we know we need each other so we Better call the calling off off, Let's call the whole thing off.
You say laughter and I say lahfter You say after and I say ahfter Laughter, lahfter after ahfter Let's call the whole thing off,
You like vanilla and I like vanella You saspiralla, and I saspirella Vanilla vanella chocolate strawberry Let's call the whole thing off
But oh if we call the whole thing of then we must part And oh, if we ever part, then that might break my heart
So if you go for oysters and I go for ersters I'll order oysters and cancel the ersters For we know we need each other so we Better call the calling off off, Let's call the whole thing off.
I say father, and you say pater, I saw mother and you say mater Pater, mater Uncle, auntie let's call the whole thing off.
I like bananas and you like banahnahs I say Havana and I get Havahnah Bananas, banahnahs Havana, Havahnah Go your way, I'll go mine
So if I go for scallops and you go for lobsters, So all right no contest we'll order lobster For we know we need each other so we Better call the calling off off, Let's call the whole thing off.
If you really read the lyrics, this is the enmeshed codependent's theme song.
This reminds me of a discussion GP and I had a while back. One of the things that fascinates me about GP is that his relationship philosophy is pretty close to the philosophy promoted by Deida but he came at it from a totally different angle through his life experience. We were discussing basic problem solving and the role of the leader.
Mojo: Well, how about the simple example of a situation where we have agreed to go see a movie but we would prefer to see different movies (tomato/tomatah)? I think it wouldn't be good if either of us simply placated the other but I would be happy with the solution that we see one movie this week and the other next week.
GP: I think part of the job of being the leader in a relationship is to come up with good solutions to problems. I would think that you would be unhappy if you had to wait until next week to see your movie so my solution would be that we spend the afternoon at the theater and see both movies.
Mojo: You're right, I do like that solution better. But, really the solution to the problem was simply communicating/realizing that there was a problem.
GP: You are going to make me think that you have no respect for me if you think I am going to let that statement fly. "The solution to the problem is to know that you have a problem." WTF.
Which is why I like GP. I would sit around thinking for a long time about where truth or goodness really exists in the gray fog between "tomato" or "tomatah" and meanwhile he would have gone to the grocery store and bought me a "tomato" and got himself a "tomatah". Problem solved.
Another amusing note on GP's take on the Deida philosophy. We were talking about the problems that result when men are too placating. GP was using different vocabulary but he adopted my use of the word placate and he said "I might choose to placate a woman on Monday if I want to but that doesn't mean that I'm going to placate her on Tuesday and if a woman is so stupid that she thinks it means that I will placate her on Tuesday then I don't need her because a woman that stupid will let the house burn down while you're away."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
