You're right though, I do need to direct more of my questions to the source himself.
For example, last night. We had that wonderful dinner (H is becoming as good a cook as I...not sure how I feel about that!)...drank some wine, listened to Tom Waits and other great tunes.
Although my H says that "physical touch" is one of his top Love Languages, I noticed that pretty much all the overtures of a physical nature (dancing close, kissing, touching) were initiated by ME. I was a little distressed to feel him actually pulling away from my kisses, trying to "peck" when I was going for more. (Remember that I have assured him that physical displays of this sort need not lead to "the act").
I asked him for some specific touches (nothing overtly sexual), now I hope he might initiate some of these on his own.
I think I should buy Michelle's book on "The Sex Starved Marriage" to see if there are any insights there.
Other than that, a very nice night, and a cloudy, quiet, slow kind of day. Think I'll pick up the "Love Languages" book again (haven't touched it since Bomb #3).
H is out for just a little bit, so I'll check on as many of you as I can!
